You May Be Feeling
Short essays exploring how you may be feeling these days.
Not so much what to do about those feelings.
But hopefully how to avoid the second arrow of judging them.
Season 2: The Mothering (Rational Tantrums)
Episodes released every Sunday (well, 3 out of 4).
You May Be Feeling
Ep. 3: Your Presence Tastes Like Absence, Part 1
Dating apps are built on a business model that ushers users through a revolving door of disgust and desire. Hopeful romantics ping reliably between two poles: “That’s it, I quit” and “Oh god, the crushing loneliness.”
Users are jaded and tired. Dating apps, once exciting and fun, are scrambling to save themselves from drowning in all the meh. I think it’s all connected to a broader crisis we’re experiencing in how we relate to being present these days: we don’t want to miss out on anything, but we don’t really want to show up for it either.